Confusion Contradiction And vat not

[LOJ]

Well I've been thru a turbulent times off late , was head over heels over someone who was totally confused about whether she was/is in love with me telling me all the time that she was not in for any relationship with ne 1 as she wanted to do her CAT and that it is more important to her. I told her ok i will wait tu CAT kar le na mere ko koi problem nahin hai lekin she stuck to her guns...



Ek baar main poocha us se, accha theek hai tho batha will u be perfectly ok if I take ur response for granted and get into a relatioship or marry someone else after 3 years (assuming she finished MBA in that time-frame) AUR USKA Jawaab LAAA JAWAAB THA



SHE : "I would think that u shud have given me another chance"



ME :



Well I had enuf and I kinda with lot of pain got over my feelings and went on with life



All of sudden (in 90 days time) she had a boyfriend. Everything went on fine for her, even the guys parents had given their consent, she wrote her CAT (she apparently did not make it thru). Suddenly her relationsship with this guy hits the bottom and finally she announces she is done with the guy. Now I am really sorry for whatever happened.



After all this she made a CANDID confession that I professed my love all to early and she wud have okayed me if I were to profess my love NOW ISKI MAA KI KIRIR KIRIRI mera saath hi hona thi.







MAA KI KIRI KIRI mera saath hi hona tha yeah circus. Well like all homosapiens I have some self-respect (aka EGO ) main kaiku tho bhi kisi ka second choice banoo?. Well u may ask me u loved her.. SURE I did and with a lot of effort got over it and trust me every single day comes with tonn loads of temptation to fall into the muck again, but NO, I really want to resist the temptation. All that it would require to rekindle the flme is a



"I STILL LOVE U" / "WILL U BE INTERESTED?"



Is it really worthwhile. The very first time I professed my love I told her my intentions (yeah .. I told her that I wanted to marry and take the relationship to a logical, practical and eventual end).



If ther issomething that I drea its me falling for her again and MARRYING HER SEEMS TO BE SACRELIGIOUS thought. I really don't want that to happen. Yeah so what in some rush of blood I told her my deep and dark secrets , I mean she knows me more that anyone else today but NO us se shaadi nahin.



Generally wanna know some point of view. I am sure the women folks will have a different idea. Do u folks think that I should really kiss and patch up (BE IT KNOW TO ALL MEN & WOMEN THAT I GOT OVER MY FEELINGS FOR HER AFTER A LOT OF EFFORT). U think what u want BUT NO I DO NOT ACTUALLY WANNA PATCH UP...Wud be good to know others point of view.



Jus wanna know if other homosapiens do go thru the same

loos(e-motions )

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Duniyaan Banaane Wale, Kya Tere Man Mein Samaaee,

Tu Ne Kaheko Duniyaan Banaa eeee

[Adonis]

erghhhh ..tooo much to read ....so skipped everything after "well i've been"



so my advice dont contradict yourself ....and you wont be confused

[LOJ]

WOW....



NEE YENKHAMMMA UR HELP ADHIRI POYINDI "ADONIS" ANNA



shucks I kinda figured out that it is indeed a freak big post.



FORGIVE ME FOR I KNOW NOT WHAT I 'VE DONE....



I SHAL'T NEVER TRANSGRESS AGAIN



FOR GODS SAKE I AM A NOOB.....

[Adonis]

^^ lol



ok just coz ur a noob.....i read ...ur story ...



my advice......if u feel so strongly about not having a relationship with her ...then id say f@#$ it.....there are plenty of fish in the pond !!!!





here is a advice on behalf of female members....love is worth the risk of broken heart, so take this oppurtunity and go out with her !

[LOJ]

here is a advice on behalf of female members....love is worth the risk of broken heart, so take this oppurtunity and go out with her

Well u say go out and stuff but I dread physical intimacy. In a way its like someones signature here

"DANCE WITH THE DEVIL, THE DEVIL DOES NOT CHAGE; BUT U DO"

NO --- I AM NO SAINT.......

I really wanna draw lines and stay real far away from physical intimacy with someone who I have no intentions to marry. The scars that they can leave can be really bad ( I AM PRETTY OL'FASHIONED)

And let me tell u right now the situation she is in and the situation I am in
, its not really hard for physical relationship to boolm (heck I am gettin poetic) [/quote]

[niky]

i say.........get over her .......... find urself a girl u deserves u and who u deserve.

u'll be wastin ur time.......its no use............i've been thru this.....i also got back with my ex after breakin up.....but then realised its not worth it......its not the same.

just say no............she had a chance.......... its her bad luck!

[LOJ]

ABSOLUTELY....



AND I HAVE MADE IT CLEAR IN MY POST



I AM NOT GONNA KISS AND PATCH UP (THE OPPORTUNITY IS ALWAYS THERE)



TRUST ME SHE CALLED ME A CPL. OF MINS BACK AND SAID, SUDDENLY I THOUGHT ABOUT U SO I CALLED U



HUA MIA DIL MEIN LADOOAN PHOTRAI NAA...

ANNA/AKKA LOG MERA DEMAND BADH GAYA.....

[azazel]

dude.. CAN U BE ANYMORE LOUDER!! tone it down brudda..

well, well, yahan to devdas' ki line lagi hui hai aisa dikhta hai..

as almost everyone her wud advice ya, get over her man..

[LOJ]

azazel:



allah ka fazal hai bhai main devas nahin bana...



yaar hyderabadi hoon tho "sab light le liya" miyan.



chup reaction maloom karne ke liye tha.



btw,

get over her

that ROCKS

[CtrlAltDel]

get over her man..

...he would, but he says he doesnt want physical intimacy...

[asli_badmash]

get over her man..

...he would, but he says he doesnt want physical intimacy...

OK..If he doesnt want it may be we can take it...



LOJ: You know dude.. you should make up and when she is into it... you should dump her! Maybe that would make her feel how you feel right now. Bhaad mein gaya Chivalry and all. Snooty gals need to be taught a lesson! She cant be playing with you like that.



~badmash~

Waiting for CAD to use "playing"

[azazel]

^^^ chichore



AB, not a bad idea.. par kahin aisa na ho ke shikaari hi shikaar ban jaaye..

[asli_badmash]

^^^ chichore

AB, not a bad idea.. par kahin aisa na ho ke shikaari hi shikaar ban jaaye..

Waise bhi Bakra ban ke khada hai katne ke liye LOJ.. Katega to bhi kush.. katega to bhi kush!

~badmash~

[asli_badmash]

I meant Katega to bhi kush.. kaatega to bhi kush!



~badmash~

[Alexis]

get over her man..

...he would, but he says he doesnt want physical intimacy...

OK..If he doesnt want it may be we can take it...

LOJ: You know dude.. you should make up and when she is into it... you should dump her! Maybe that would make her feel how you feel right now. Bhaad mein gaya Chivalry and all. Snooty gals need to be taught a lesson! She cant be playing with you like that.

~badmash~
Waiting for CAD to use "playing"

Swell plan, Badmash. But two wrongs dont make a right. To appease his ego, he might love to do that. But what if after getting back with her, he really gets into the relationship? What then?

Girls like that get their kiye ki sazaa anyway, GOD makes sure of that.



I say, leave it alone. Youre over her, good. Just stay back even when she drops heavy hints...........and find someone else.

[SimarikSmokin]

Hey this is what i Say:



WOMEN CAN'T LIVE WITH THEM, CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT THEM!

[LOJ]

Badmash Miyan,



Yeah, to be frank I realy wanted to do that, but man as alexis puts it "two wrongs never make a right". And u really cannot afford to live with that stigma the rest of your life coz. vengence + self-pity is a one time drug for insanity .



Pyar ko badnaam nahin karne ka yaaron. Hyderabadhi hoke na pyar ke naam pe kalank nahin ban ne ka. If th motive is not love then believe me you end up doing insane things beyond self-justification and your conscience is also be numbed (vengence in relationship is a HORRENDOUS emotion)



and SS way to go with the contradiction

[azazel]

But what if after getting back with her, he really gets into the relationship? What then?

thts exactly wht i meant by the shikaari ban jaaye shikaar comment!



isi mauzu par ek sher arz hai :

Pyaar karo to dhokha mat dena, Dusro ko aansu ka tofha mat dena, Dil se kose koi tumhe zindagi bhar, Aisa kisi ko mauka mat dena...!!



n LOJ, SS is rite, always

[asli_badmash]

Hey this is what i Say:
WOMEN CAN'T LIVE WITH THEM, CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT THEM!

SS; You mean you cant live with women or cant live without them??

~badmash~

[asli_badmash]

Girls like that get their kiye ki sazaa anyway, GOD makes sure of that.
I say, leave it alone. Youre over her, good. Just stay back even when she drops heavy hints...........and find someone else.

You know Alexis, there was a time I would have said the same thing.. But after everything I have seen. I think God does not punish snooty women; they just go on to break others hearts.



God thinks it to be a waste of his resources to get involved in punishing snooty women for breaking guys hearts. He has bigger things to do. I think he wants guys to do something about it themselves. Stand up for themselves! Give back what you get.



You must have heard of "God helps those who help themselves". So I say.. Get her back and dump her !



~badmash~

[asli_badmash]

I forgot to add... when you dump her.. Tell her why your dumping her!

Badmash Miyan,

Yeah, to be frank I realy wanted to do that, but man as alexis puts it "two wrongs never make a right". And u really cannot afford to live with that stigma the rest of your life coz. vengence + self-pity is a one time drug for insanity .

The first wrong shouldnt have been done in the first place. You dont have to take everything... God damn it! Show some Spine for a change. People's emotions are something you dont play with. Samjhe..

Pyar ko badnaam nahin karne ka yaaron. Hyderabadhi hoke na pyar ke naam pe kalank nahin ban ne ka.

Raja... Kayka pyar.. tum ich the pyar mein. Acha ullu baana ke rakhi tumhara... Pyar katte... If she was so much in love with you. She would have done everything to get you back.

If th motive is not love then believe me you end up doing insane things beyond self-justification and your conscience is also be numbed (vengence in relationship is a HORRENDOUS emotion)
and SS way to go with the contradiction

Its not Vengence.. its JUSTICE... If you dont do it now; she is going break more hearts. And you in some ways would be responsible for it. Do you want that!

~badmash~

[LOJ]

Well,



I believe the show of strength, character and spine is being able to get over the former feelings and being able to forgive and forget and move on. Moreover the situation that I am in, I can wreak a havoc in her life if I choose to do so (no, I am not boasting), besides it too hard to fake love (at least for me) and badmash bhai aap tho Pathan ho, u think u can fake love and do u think u will feel good even if u manage to do so.



Get a life world is a better place without vengence and more so self-pity. I know there are innumerable men and women who must have been thru deep shit.



Look at it more from an angle of self-evolution. The fight between the devil and angel rages on and on the best of gold passes thru the worst of fire



saala mere ko philosopher bana ke choodingaa kya baap tu (badmsh)

[asli_badmash]

saala mere ko philosopher bana ke choodingaa kya baap tu (badmsh)

Answer nahin hai to.. philosophy kaiku phekra baap.. I agree sometimes its good to let go.. forgive and forget but not all the times.

~badmash~

[LOJ]

doode...the answer is pretty clear right....no i am not gonna have a go at her.



the fact that I am resisting her moves is bad enuf for her ab beekar mein why mess up...



waqt waqt ki baath hai yaar.