I missed/lost my love just because of her parents' ego!

by **ek humdard** » Sat Jul 26, 2003 8:45 pm

jab koyi ek dusre kotut ke chatha hai tho kyun nahi bade samaj pathe yeh baath ke woh log kinta ek dusre ko pasand karthe ,par woh apna ego beech mai lathe hain manthahun parents ki bhi kuch ummedein hothi haiizath hotih hai par jo k dusre ko chathe hain undersntadinghai unke jazbathoun ko bhi samaj na chayye phir kyun nahi samajthe aur majboor kardethen hain woh do chane waloun ko ke saab ke khilaf jakar aisakuch kare jisse saab ko zillath aurrusayai utthani pade phele toh maii yehi khaunga pls forgod sake agar 100% rastha saafhai tho ek dsure se dil lag a bhato aur laga hi chuke hai tho pls for god sake openly baath karo apne apne parents se pls for god sake , maine bhi kisi ko dilo jaan se chatha hun aur sirf aur sirf uske bharose se yehki woh kisi bhi hal maii kaisi bhi majboori maii mera saath nahi chodegi par aisa na huwa halanke ussne barbar khaa keshadi karlo par maine sirf aur sirf badoun ki izzath ke liyeaisanahi kiya bas intezar kar par woh intezar mujhe mere dil sebhouth dooooooooorrrrrr le gayi maiianne se phele uski zindaig maii koyi aur bhi usse chatha thha par ek tarfa halanki woh usse rject kar chuki thhe phirbhi woh ladka badoun ke zariya ropsal lane maii kamiyab hogaya par woh ladki muje sirf mujhe dilo jaan se chahthi thhe aur mujhe pura yaqeen thha kisi bhi hal maii mujhe nahi chodegi par aisa huwa kyun kiwoh apni ma ki halath dhekarshayed pigal gayi par tajub hai ke wohyeh saabphele se janthi thhe phir bhi mujhe apni ruh ke khareeb kari yeh galith kiski hai aajmaii yeh sounhcthah un kiyawoh bewafa thhe ya majboor thhe kaise uske hount uss ladke kel iye khbool hai bol utthe aur kaise woh khalam se woh dastakqath kar bhati bas mere pyare dstou nse yehi kahunga humesha apne badoun kiduwa zarur lena har hal maisukun mai rahoooge maine iss thokar seyehi shika hai bas aur kuchnahi phir bhi ek umeed haiaahai woh ayyegi mere pas kiya maii intezar karlun uska koyi pls bolega mujhe kalrun uska intezar halanki uska pathi jo badkhismathi se hogayahai woh bhi jnathahai acchithra se jouski biwi hai maii uske liyekiya hun

by **mrk** » Mon Jul 28, 2003 12:40 pm

Hey ek humdard why are you bothering about her when she left you and your love and married with another. Try to forget her. Try to maintain a good carrier,love is just a part of life but not an entire life.

by **ek humdard** » Tue Jul 29, 2003 1:16 am

mrk i fully agreewith love is a part of life but uagree its a major part of life which effects you to the fuillest same as heart is also a major part of the body,maii bhi yehi sounchtha thha love affection just normal human feeelings par really dear it effects u a lot ,mera pyar aisa kuch ladka ladki dheke peecha kare aisa nahi thha mera pyar ek acchi niyath se shuru huwa thha ,i had selected this girl onthe matrimonial site belive me maine uski tasveer bhi nahi dheki thhe pyar izhar karne se phele and for you infromation she intentionally didt left me she was under pressure from her parents becuase of he mother health may be i just wantedto oknow why the helll partents dont understand the really love and affection and what there kids needs but they view and measure al lthe things fro mthere point of view here parents knows 100% that she will not be happy at all to whom they got married to her but still they wanted to maintain there prestige izzath that was more importantthem no dought time will heal everything but kiya faida uss cheez ka jab kushi hona hai tab nahi mili tho,anway ima just trying to say in this forum is just irequest all parents to diffierentiate a teenage love and and a matured love , maine iasa kuch galath nahi kiya ladki pasand ayyi,propose kiya just because the iwas choice of the girl it hurt there feelings aur kuch nahi anway zindagi hai tho unnhe mehsus hoga ke woh theek nahi kare

by **mrk** » Wed Jul 30, 2003 11:31 am

Ek humdard bai Tumhari love story sunke mereko oh din yad aye. abhi tumhe do love stories bathatha hun. Firstly mera, main Degree me join huwa. Mera najar yek ladki ke upar gira oh football player thi. Oh state and national level university player thi. Mai use first year me chidathatha. Oh gusse me athithi, main uske pyar me uthar neka bad pura uski yadon me din aur rath guzarthatha. Daily uskeliye fairandlovely bi lagake smart guy banke jathatha. Uske love panekeliye maine football team selections me saath din barish me bigkhe khela magar upsoski baath hai ki mujhe typhoid aya aur mera tawviyat kharab hogaya. yek mahina mai bed pe tha. Phir mai acha honeka baad mai college ko gaya. oh telugu medium ke ladki thi main english humare college yek magar rooms alag the. Phir bhi main subjects yek hai bolke uske room me mere friendske jariya baithatha. Dekthe Dekthe 1year guzar gaya. I am innocent in those days. usse friendshipki baath bhi nahin kiya. Second year me mai usko pahila chidathatha magar ekdin usko unexpectedly oh unke friendse cycle ke upar jarahithi jab main usko i love you bola. Uske friend ke samne bola bolke usko bahut gussa aya. Yek din thum bahar aao tumse bath karnekahai bolke bulayi. Main nahin gaya, main seven days college absent huwa. Oh phir mere roomko ake mere friends ke samne ithne din kaiku nahin aye thum uthna dar the ho tho pyar kaiko karthe boli. Sabhi groups ke mere friends ake kya huwa re bolke mereko puche oh mere bachpan ke friends the. Main unlogonko bolna nahi chaha. tum chelejao mere personal bath hai bolke bola. Magar uno nahin gaye. Mere lover ke samne unlogonko huwi so bath bathadiya. Usko aur gussa aya unhone unke brother ko baath bathayi. Unke brother bhi mere bachpanka friend tha unhone aake thum galath kaam kare usko thujpar pyar hai magar thum kareso galath kaam se usko nafrath pahelgai bholke usko sorry bolo bolke bola. Main usko sorry bolne ke vaasthe uske room ko gaya. Oh pure groups ke girls ko ikatta karri. Main sorry bola unne boli in ladkiyon se kisi bhi ladki ko choose karke thum pyar karo mai support karoongi. Magar mujhe bhooljao ab se ek sister jaisa dekho bholi. Mereko ghusa aaya aur usko bola kya samajthi hai thu apne apko carodome yek ko pasand kartha hun mai love koi aisi chees nahin jis ko boletho usse kare. Mera dil toot chuka tha. Magar main try karke football Intercollegiate practice me shaamil hoke Intercollegiate championship me hummare college aur hum jeethethe. Oh mere friends ko mere baare me poocha karthithi oh kaiku college nahin ara bolke. Main Khelome,N.C.C,N.S.S me rahtha tha. Main decide karliya life abhi kissisebhi nahin pyar karoonga bholke. Magar usko bhoolnahin paarahatha. Second year last me usko loveletter deneke baareme socha. Yek achi lovegreeting bhi kareeda magar uske pahili baat mujhoko yaad aya aur use mainne oh greeting nahin diya. oh greeting faad diya. Aur Final year usko milne ke vaasthe daily classes jaatha tha magar two months oh nahin aayee. Mere thaviyath kharab hogaya uske yaad me mai mere halath bigadliya. Mere parents oh dekh khar mera shaadi humre uncle ke daughterse kardiye.

by **mrk** » Wed Jul 30, 2003 11:42 am

Adding to the above. Woh mera love story me se kuch lamhe the. Abhi mere friend ka love story suno. Woh ek ladki ko pyar kiya, woh ladki ne usko pyar kee. Donon ek dusre ko pyaar kiye, magar un donon ke beech me villain tha caste vs religion. mera friend hindu aur woh ladki christian thi. Woh ladki ke gharvaale aur mere friend khe ghar vaale un donon ke pyar khe khilaf the. Donon badonko samjhaneko dekhe magar bade aadmi unke pyaar kho tukraye. Humare friend ko badonke upar gussa aaya aur woh ladki aur humara friend donon milke zahar pike aathma hathya karliye. Mere friend aur woh ladki marne se pahile ek chitti likhkhe margaye. woh chitti me humareko jeethe jeethe judakarneko dekhe magar marneka baadtho humarekon aur humarekhabronko yek paas rakho bholke likkhe margaye. Magar bade log marneke badbi unke khabron kho alag kardiya unke aakhri kwaish bhi puranahin kiye. Donon dononka relligion ke hitabese Alag alag samshanme dafnadiye. Yeh hai apni India friend. Badelog nahin samjhenge.

by **mrk** » Wed Jul 30, 2003 4:03 pm

Adding to the above dilpe math le yaar dilpe mathle marjayinga. It\'s the song which meant for you and like me candidates. Samjhona yaar.

by **ek humdard** » Wed Jul 30, 2003 4:44 pm

mrk ifrst of all ireally appreciate for your efforts to speak out in urdu keep it up dheko yaar pyar kiya mujhe patha nahi par haan yeh zarur hai meri jaan se ek ajeeb rishtha thha aur woh rishthe ko bhulna utna asan nahi hai aur na hi woh ek switch hai jo off kardiya saab khatam haan yeh zarur hai time wil lheal but ireally regret but same time jo bhi hotha hai yeh samaj kar kush hojana chaye ke acche ke liye hotha hai aab dheko na woh bhi mujhe nahi bhula payegi thoda waqth lagega par maii apne badoun se yehi guzarish bar bar karunga ke kis ki kushi kis maii hai usse understand kare baad maii agar uski zindagi ki bhalayi ka dhe krahe ho tho woh khud ba khud banalenge apni zindagi bas unhe kushi chayyee phele phir jab apne aap hi zindagi bhi kushi se guzar jayegi

by **mrk** » Wed Jul 30, 2003 4:56 pm

Yar main hindu family me paida huwa,1996 me maine christianity leliya. Mere bahut friends muslim wale hain isliye thoda kuch urdu me baath karsakthahun. thumhari appreciation keliye shukriya. yaar maine us ladkikho ithna chaha ki mai har din uske yadon me rahthatha. uske dekhe bina mujhe khanekobhi dilnahi lagthatha. college honeke bad usladkike peeche kartha tha uske gharko pathakarneka vaasthe. Uske love me kithnon ko maine inkaar kiye. Humare mamoo ke ladkiyan mujhe pasand karthethe magar unko maine tukraya. Yaar mereko bahut ladkiyan uswaqt collegemebhi pasand karthethe. Thode ladkiyan udne ko propose kare maine tukraya. thode ladkiya jism milane ko pasand kare maine unhe bhi tukraya. thode ladkiyan love propose kare unhe bhi uske yaad me tukraya. Agar mai na tukraya hotah tho mera score sachin jaisa hotha tha. Magar mera sacha prem tha usike vaasthe sochthatha. Main drink peeneko sharmathatha, Uski pyar fail honeke baad main daily bahot ciggerettes peethatha. Uske yadonko bhoolneko mujhe shaadi hone ka baad bi theen mahine lage. Mere wife ko theen mahine thak pas ane bhi nahin diyan. Atlast mere wife aur mere ghar wale unhe bhulane me khamiyab huwe.

by **intizar mein ..baithi hun jwab ke liyye** » Fri Aug 01, 2003 1:53 pm

hai, allah, agar mein ne bhi isi tarha mere ammiabba ke hone wale daamad ko sattayi tho !!? isi tarha mere yaar ko bhulane ki koshish mein mere pahele pahele shadi ke dinnon mein unse wait kaarayi tho ?!! kya mujhe bhi maaf karenge kya, mrk?

by **mrk** » Fri Aug 01, 2003 3:26 pm

Kyun nahin jaroor maf karenge. Agar woh thumhe chahne wala hai tho jaroor maf karega.

by **mrk** » Fri Aug 01, 2003 3:55 pm

adding tothe above mai usse ithna chahtha tha ki oh kisi bhi state par khelkhe vapas aneka badme uski tasweer agar akbhar me chapitho main us thasweer ko humare friendke ghar me vaartha paper leke us thasweerko kaat kar mere purse me aur albumme rakhakarthatha. Oh groundpe khelthi jab usko dekha kartha tha. Ek baar policeground me oh khelrahi jab usse dekhneke vaasthe samneki college ke thisri floor ke upar chadkar vaha se use dekha kartha tha. Oh mere dilko aisi pyar ke chout pohachaiki is duniyan me koibhi aurat oh chotko mittanasakthi. Aur mai bhi use jo pyar ka chout pohachaya use bhi sirf mere siwai koi dusra na pohachapayega. Ek din main gao chodke mere shaadi ke baareme jaathe waqtpe busme mere baajuko mere ammi baitithi jab bus groundse guzarrahithi us groundme oh khelrahithi usse dikhakhar busme kithna roya bagwanko aur mere ammiko malum. Magar mere ammibhi kya karthi jab mera one side love hogayatho. Oh mujhe I love you bolke bolegi bolke main kithna intejaar metha magar usne sharmindagi se nahin boli. Mere friends se mere bare me poocha karthithi magar mujhese direct nahi baath karthithi. Abhi Ek humdard ke message padneke baad phir mere mehboob mereko yaadayi mano ya namano mere ko do dinse chainse neendnahi aathi. Abhi main do bachonka baap hun magar. Usse nahi bhool pa raha hun. I love her till my last breath. Woh mere akari dum gutnetak mere khayalonme rahengi. Usse mere dilke andar kabki jaga dechuka hun.

by **pavani** » Sat Aug 02, 2003 9:56 pm

I will not miss out on my love cuz I marrying my bf haha

by **mrk** » Mon Aug 04, 2003 12:55 pm

I wish you a happy life with your boyfriend pavani. I wish you a happy married life. Bye...

by **ek humdard** » Tue Aug 05, 2003 7:10 pm

dear mrk, i can understand your pain perfectly. i am unable to understand jiss ladki se maii itna khareeb hogaya kuch heen dinow main aur - note this - she was also too close, ek ajeeb si kashis (forcefull attraction) hai ussme you know after marriage what she tells me she sees me ever where even though her husband is trying to keep her happy and mind you her husband knows very well what he has done knowingly to her and to me so here doesnt arise any question of my love deciveing him by beiing still intouch with me, i know morally this is not right for both of us but kiya karen yaar emtions dont see all this things patha hai when i now see her even though she is there wearing good jewelllaryand all thatstuff still ican see a emptyness a lonliness in her eyes and still i expect her she will be mine(aab yeh maath bolo zindagi hinid movei ki thra nahi hai janan ajay devgan khud apni patni ko salman ke pas le aatha hai movies are made frm real life ,anyway its just a hope in me ,i know its not right what we did, u can say what idid, ishould have approched our elders in the beginning only but apsos tho yeh hai bade kyun aisi galthi jan bhuj kar kar bhathe hain yeh samaj ke ke jo bhi woh log kar rahen hain pani aulad ke kushi ke liye kar rahen hain yeh baath ka apsos hotha hai no dought when time goes by we have to compromise with our desires with our wants with our situation around but why ,zindagi ek bar jee jathi hai phir kyun nahi apni marzi se jee nahi sakthe hum saab anway first of all galthi ki hai yeh jo hum aisa free ladka ladki mil jathe hain yeh samaj kar ke saab rangeen hain atraf issliye tho humara culture mana kartha hai in saab chizooun se par mind you in islam there is full liberty for the GIRL and BOY to select his/her own choice but no one is following that kiya bura hai jab niyath(intention) theek hai if parents undersntad this than no thought full person will take any step which will go against there parents our which can hurt any body anway ithink iam just coming off thetrack bas maii yehi chatha hun kabhi kisi se dil na lagaoo agar laga rahe ho tho saab ko bataoooo aur apna faisla saab ko batakar dil lagaooo warna result will be too dangerous for all for some may be life long mr,mrk if you dont mind pls carry on ur messages in english only as you are unable to express the right point in your hinenglish and one more thing you said yo uare married now but still remember you love does she knows you remember her still and what will be you doing if the same things happens with your kids pls answer fairly becuase we all have a habit what we preach we dont practice isnt

by **mrk** » Sat Aug 09, 2003 2:29 pm

If the same things happen with my kids I will agree to their love. She doesn\'t no that I still love her because I left that place when my father got transferred and now I am working far away from her. Now, I am 26yrs old and have two kids. A daughter and a son. My suggestion to you is if your love has failed, then try to think about the one who loves you. The most precious relationship in the world is love. Next to it is marriage and then friendship. There is no end for these relationships, they will be continued till the end of one's life.

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