Defeat Heartache!

[Betty]

4D,2 girls at the same time
i dont understand how can you like 2 at the same time same way

Very confusing



Maybe that's why that heartbreak was so intense....good that at least now times are better for 4D...

[Girl]

You feel lousy. Its like being stabbed.



Time is the best healer is a cliche. Like someone rightly pointed out, you feel like shit when you are going through that post 'realise that the guy/girl didn't have feelings for you but you really loved him/her' phase. Platitudes about 'forget it and move on' hold hardly any meaning.



What was that thing about it being included in the curriculum ? You can't teach lessons about how to fall in love and what to do if it doesn't work. The idea at this point of time seems absurd. Folks/family if they know about it can make a big difference, either ways. If a parent knows about it, and handles it sensitively, nothing like it. Its the balm that a broken heart needs.

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[akhilis2cool]

So who all got banned apart form Jacko?

[black wizard]

I didnt get banned... *whew*... kya hai ki yeh banning system Mods ka...

[Kavita]

I had a heartbreak, just a year ago. Today, I wish I had not started that relationship at all. They say Past is Past, forget and move on. But, sometimes it comes back to you and makes you feel so bad.

Normal Distribution says its normal to have both ups and downs as part of your days, so its fine.

Ditto.

Had a tough time getting out of it. I think I am still not completely out of it but have decided to go on.



One Question: The particular pain we feel during a herat break, is it similar to stoke in the heart or is it psychosomatic?

[san]

I had a heartbreak, just a year ago. Today, I wish I had not started that relationship at all. They say Past is Past, forget and move on. But, sometimes it comes back to you and makes you feel so bad.

Normal Distribution says its normal to have both ups and downs as part of your days, so its fine.

Ditto.
Had a tough time getting out of it. I think I am still not completely out of it but have decided to go on.

One Question: The particular pain we feel during a herat break, is it similar to stoke in the heart or is it psychosomatic?

Feels quite real tho, more like a heart attack - that's what i imagne heart attack would feel like, only HA lasts a lot longer.

[Lucifer]

Call me an idealist or call me an absolute idiot, but I do not understand the concept of a heart-break. I believe that if you truly love the person it does not matter if the person is with you or not.



Since there is not better example than this which would appeal to quite a large section of the junta on these DBs (read SRK fans), I believe the relationship that SRK and Ash had in Mohabbatein was as close to true love as has been displayed on Indian celluloid.



Separation does not mean that you have to go to a bar and get piss drunk. If you truly love the person, then you would be happy that he/she is happy by not being with you. Face it, people. Love, in more ways than one, is like a one way street. One of the partners has to love more for it to succeed. And if that partner is you then your happiness would be in letting the other person do what makes him/her happy. It should not bring any misery upon you.



When misery happens, that is when there was something seriouly wrong with your perception of the relationship or of love itself.

[mayumi]

Heartbreak............I've experienced it once and no matter how hard i tried pretending it was all ok and that I wud be over it in time, still it was the feeling of 'almost dying inside' while still in the process and walking out was difficult. But then U have to accept the fact that it happens to everyone, so move on, and the healing will follow automatically even without u realizing ure finally over it.

[Mayavi Morpheus]

Heartbreak............I've experienced it once and no matter how hard i tried pretending it was all ok and that I wud be over it in time, still it was the feeling of 'almost dying inside' while still in the process and walking out was difficult. But then U have to accept the fact that it happens to everyone, so move on, and the healing will follow automatically even without u realizing ure finally over it.

Kab, kaise?



When, how?

[Aishwarya]

Falling in love is the best feeling in the world but the downside of it is the worst... I fell in love and never have regained the peace of mind I had before. I am married now, very happy and content BUT... that emptiness is still inside..



The wierd part is that, if I am given a choice to go back and undo "falling in love" I wouldnt want to do that... (I think I am a psycho)..And the wierder part is that, if I were given a choice of being with the person I fell in love with oh so madly, I wouldnt want to do that either(I am the lord of Psychos!) and I have no idea why...



Any freuds or psychoanalysts around here who can help me...What is this state of mental condition called? (retarded, demented or "Lines of being a seriel killer")

[san]

Falling in love is the best feeling in the world but the downside of it is the worst... I fell in love and never have regained the peace of mind I had before. I am married now, very happy and content BUT... that emptiness is still inside..

The wierd part is that, if I am given a choice to go back and undo "falling in love" I wouldnt want to do that... (I think I am a psycho)..And the wierder part is that, if I were given a choice of being with the person I fell in love with oh so madly, I wouldnt want to do that either(I am the lord of Psychos!) and I have no idea why...

Any freuds or psychoanalysts around here who can help me...What is this state of mental condition called? (retarded, demented or "Lines of being a seriel killer")

nothing wrong with you. u just have a lovely husband. you probably still love Mr. X but now you can now see his short comings - hence wouldn't want to be with him...

[san]

Call me an idealist or call me an absolute idiot, but I do not understand the concept of a heart-break. I believe that if you truly love the person it does not matter if the person is with you or not.

Since there is not better example than this which would appeal to quite a large section of the junta on these DBs (read SRK fans), I believe the relationship that SRK and Ash had in Mohabbatein was as close to true love as has been displayed on Indian celluloid.

Separation does not mean that you have to go to a bar and get piss drunk. If you truly love the person, then you would be happy that he/she is happy by not being with you. Face it, people. Love, in more ways than one, is like a one way street. One of the partners has to love more for it to succeed. And if that partner is you then your happiness would be in letting the other person do what makes him/her happy. It should not bring any misery upon you.

When misery happens, that is when there was something seriouly wrong with your perception of the relationship or of love itself.

Wouldn't call you an idiot - although I'm tempted to but naive, yes. HA does not always have to be about separation. Saying that, your last statement carries a lot of weight but things are not quite so simple. I can tell you have not been in love, have ya?

[Aishwarya]

You are right San. I do have a lovely husband.Contentment is most important and I have that and thats what matters.



But for academic purpose, this emptiness that I feel inside, is it morally right ?

[san]

You are right San. I do have a lovely husband.Contentment is most important and I have that and thats what matters.

But for academic purpose, this emptiness that I feel inside, is it morally right ?

it's just unfortunate. why don't u give Mr.X another chance & i bet he'll let himself down and take that emptiness away at the same time...

[Portuguese Man-Of-War]

You are right San. I do have a lovely husband.Contentment is most important and I have that and thats what matters.

But for academic purpose, this emptiness that I feel inside, is it morally right ?

it's just unfortunate. why don't u give Mr.X another chance & i bet he'll let himself down and take that emptiness away at the same time...

You seem to know Mr. X, San. Or is it that you know about all men?

[CtrlAltDel]

You are right San. I do have a lovely husband.Contentment is most important and I have that and thats what matters.

But for academic purpose, this emptiness that I feel inside, is it morally right ?

it's just unfortunate. why don't u give Mr.X another chance & i bet he'll let himself down and take that emptiness away at the same time...

:shock: u saying she shud renew her relationship with X so that her heart ache wud go away? IMO, she wud be suffering a lot other aches if she does that...

[Lucifer]

Wouldn't call you an idiot - although I'm tempted to but naive, yes. HA does not always have to be about separation. Saying that, your last statement carries a lot of weight but things are not quite so simple. I can tell you have not been in love, have ya?

My dear San, contrary to what you may think, I have been down the road of love. And that is exactly why I think I understand it so completely. Because when she went away, I felt exactly what I had written in my post. I am still happy that she is happy. There is no feeling of emptiness in my heart.



That is why I fail to understand that if what other people define love is love then what was it that I was in? I believe that I was in the love that was so deep that it went beyond the need for anything else.

[san]

Wouldn't call you an idiot - although I'm tempted to but naive, yes. HA does not always have to be about separation. Saying that, your last statement carries a lot of weight but things are not quite so simple. I can tell you have not been in love, have ya?

My dear San, contrary to what you may think, I have been down the road of love. And that is exactly why I think I understand it so completely. Because when she went away, I felt exactly what I had written in my post. I am still happy that she is happy. There is no feeling of emptiness in my heart.

That is why I fail to understand that if what other people define love is love then what was it that I was in? I believe that I was in the love that was so deep that it went beyond the need for anything else.

Dear Lucifer, I repeat, it is not always about letting go...



...and do not rule out that you could feel heart broken because of the same person at some point in future...i'm not wishing it on you, just saying it could happen.

[san]

You are right San. I do have a lovely husband.Contentment is most important and I have that and thats what matters.

But for academic purpose, this emptiness that I feel inside, is it morally right ?

it's just unfortunate. why don't u give Mr.X another chance & i bet he'll let himself down and take that emptiness away at the same time...

:shock: u saying she shud renew her relationship with X so that her heart ache wud go away? IMO, she wud be suffering a lot other aches if she does that...

hmmmm nope! not necessarily renew the relationship. i'm just saying he probably was never worth it.

[san]

You are right San. I do have a lovely husband.Contentment is most important and I have that and thats what matters.

But for academic purpose, this emptiness that I feel inside, is it morally right ?

it's just unfortunate. why don't u give Mr.X another chance & i bet he'll let himself down and take that emptiness away at the same time...

You seem to know Mr. X, San. Or is it that you know about all men?

the latter. know one and u know them all

[Lucifer]

Dear Lucifer, I repeat, it is not always about letting go...

...and do not rule out that you could feel heart broken because of the same person at some point in future...i'm not wishing it on you, just saying it could happen.

I beg to differ. In love, it is always about letting go. If you love the person truly, then you should be able to let go. That is the test of true love. And I am as inflexible on that as diamond comes close to being a rigid body.

[san]

Dear Lucifer, I repeat, it is not always about letting go...

...and do not rule out that you could feel heart broken because of the same person at some point in future...i'm not wishing it on you, just saying it could happen.

I beg to differ. In love, it is always about letting go. If you love the person truly, then you should be able to let go. That is the test of true love. And I am as inflexible on that as diamond comes close to being a rigid body.

*sniff sniff i was writing this lengthy reply, sniff sniff, my PC was rebooted ggggrrrrr how annoying*

[vivek]

Dedicated to all those guys n girls who experienced heart-breaks at some point in their lives. Ways to overcome this miserable pain are many, but the best healer is time.
This is an open forum where you can jot in your thoughts, inputs and ideas. Not intended to dig your past in any way, but if visiting this post made you nostalgic, I apologize in advance.

hmm.. nice topic.. never thought about such things. The best way to deal with so called "Heart aces' are as follows



1. For boozers : 2 mugs of beer + salt+french fries+quiete bar+an awesome old time buddy of the same gender. Take once each evening for 10 days. Make sure the buddy is dry and emotionless in life. He/She should not know anything about GFs/BFs and should best be incapable of procuring such a thing in the near future. ( I have many like them(including me) available for Rs 100 per hour+VAT @ 8%, excluding bozz) . Talk all nonsense to the dry buddy. Puke your mind out to him/her. Thats it. Cry,crib and pee.Get back to life. See how aweome its being single.



2. For non-boozers : Start boozing and follow step 1. OR, use auto suggestion as a technique. Tell yourself that your are jamesbond. Avoid going to places where people like James bond visit. Watch National geographic channel and know why Brazil nut trees grows to 80 ft. Read a lot of stuff and show-off your knowledge. Get back to life.See how people admire your knowledge. Cook up your own facts and act as if you are of those intellects. If possible wear fake glasses!. Build your confidence and say balls to relationships.



Either way you follow, remember only your parents,siblings and close friends matter. Every one else is with you for a reason. Work towards making Parents,siblings and friend happy. All else can wait.

[Betty]

Dear Lucifer, I repeat, it is not always about letting go...

...and do not rule out that you could feel heart broken because of the same person at some point in future...i'm not wishing it on you, just saying it could happen.

I beg to differ. In love, it is always about letting go. If you love the person truly, then you should be able to let go. That is the test of true love. And I am as inflexible on that as diamond comes close to being a rigid body.

The test of true love might be your ability to let go, but not everyone loves in the same way, and that does not mean that their love is not true.

Love is about a lot of things other than just 'letting go' and anyone who says he/she knows the ultimate definition of love and whatever he/she has felt or decided about love is right and others are all wrong is either immatured or conceited....because each one loves differently...

We should all be proud of our strength in going through difficult times, but we should never ever feel that whatever strategy we used is the only right one.

Agreed love is about letting go and being happy that the other one is happy...but heartbreak may not always be 'because you need to let go of someone and he/she is happy without you'.

It maybe because someone else, other than you two, decide that you cannot be together, which adds to the ache because it takes time to accept someone elses decision.

It maybe becuase the one you love can suddenly tell you that you are not good enough for him, and give no reasons why it took him so long to realize that.

It maybe because at the end of it, you will always think - where did I go wrong? And in most cases, because you have loved the other one so much, you will be ready to take all the blame and lose your confidence in the process.

Not everyone is lucky enough to be told that "you are a great person and you are the best one for me, but what to do, I am happier with someone else", in fact the statement itself sounds contradictory....