Suggestions regarding confused love

by **ch.srikanth** » Wed Aug 14, 2002 5:48 pm

i met a girl online a couple of months back through this fullhyderabad.i started liking her company alot.we started chatting regularly and accidentally one of my close friend got introduced to her.and from then one she started giving priority to my friend.its obvious because he is hand some then me.i started feeling insecure about the things going on.she calls us daily.and for you kind information she lives in another country and she calls from that country.and one fine day she said to me that she is in love with my friend and even my friend conveyed her that he loves her.now the problem is that i started liking her since i met her online and now i feel that i love her more then anything in this world.and knowing the my friend and she are in love i\'m not able to be stable in my thoughts.anyhow as i don\'t want to lead to further comlications i started ignoring her and started missing her phone calls.and matter of fact my friend still did\\nt told me about their love.its the girl who told me.but the bottom line is that i love her a lot and the more i try to go away the more i\'m feeling for her.its really painful.whats that i have to do?

by **Shahed** » Wed Aug 14, 2002 6:23 pm

Dear Sri , You must accept this fact that LOVE is a God Gift and will happen only one time in your life. Once you missed it then Khallaassss...And when she disclosed that she loves him then you are out of the game. Because anyhow even you get her(in case your friend refuse her) then also you can not replace your friend place in her heart. So the good solution is Check with your friend whether he really loves her or not. If he agrees then as a good friend of both you must happily accept their relation. After all u r a friend of both... I know it is very hard for you , but there is a solution for you too... Try for another Girl yaar , much beautiful and better then her may it will give you out of pool of pain.. Cheers !!

by **Ek Akela** » Wed Aug 14, 2002 6:32 pm

If you really love her, than help her to get her love...thats love

by **venkat ranga reddy ravula** » Wed Aug 14, 2002 10:19 pm

dear sri,
hope you are going through which many are going through.anyhow its your personal life and i don\'t think anyone can give you a perfect suggestion when it comes to your personal feelings because no one knows how much you feel for her.so what i suggest you is don\'t stop loving her,if you love her sincerely.who knows what happens tomorrow.be true from your side and don\'t supress your feeling for anyone.just express what you feel for her instead of creating board in this site.it maybe helpful by taking suggestions for your personal matters but its not the solution.you express when you love which is more important.

by **hardcoder** » Wed Aug 14, 2002 11:43 pm

Well dude, I\'m sorry for you, but its not a question of whether you are handsome or not. Its just that it has clicked between your friend and that girl. I\'ve clicked with my gf and we\'re going to marry next year or in 2004, and she never fell for me cuz of my looks, cuz I\'m not handsome at all. It is basically your attitude that matters and how you are frank with her with your feelings. It is too late for you now I guess. My girl is an Asian (Pacific-Asian) and Pacific-Asians are very sensitive and passive, and one of their common qualities is they wait for the guy to make the first move, this is evident in Filipina and Chinese girls, they\'d never tell the guy first that they love him, even if they are crazy after him. I guess you must have been shy about your feelings for her and never let it out. Maybe you wanted her to implicitly know that you loved her. But from what I know about Pacific-Asian girls is that they\'d consider a guy as a coward if he is afraid of declaring his crush or love for a girl, and they\'d prefer other people. Next time, make sure you are open with the girl about your feelings instead of keeping your mouth shut and expecting her to know, or else you\'ll lose her like how you lost this one. All the best.

by **Ravi Rajan** » Thu Aug 15, 2002 1:48 am

Hi Sri,
I would like to know ... what you will do in case, if she says that she has started lovin you instead of your friend.
What would you do in that situation. If you have an answer for this, then your problem is solved. Can you accept her.
Yes/No. Please let us know about this, then dependin on your answer anyone among us might be able to determine the depth of your love towards her.

by **the cool dude** » Thu Aug 15, 2002 11:20 am

dil pe mat le yaar...haath pe le le!!!

by **whoever** » Sun Aug 18, 2002 1:13 pm

Hi Srikanth, this is not a philosophical funda unlike all the other posts here - it is a solution for you to get her out of your system, but you have to try it with utmost dedication, and it should work in 15 days if you try dedicatedly enough. Here it is, and it is very simple - just don\'t think of her for 15 days. That\'s it - think of everything else in the world except her for 15 days. If she comes into your head, divert your thoughts to something else. If you manage this for 15 days, you will become absolutely indifferent to her by then. Every guy gets into this shit once in a while, and this is a solution that normally works. But execution should be flawless - even if you catch yourself thinking of her for 30 seconds at a stretch, you are not being faithful enough to the solution. (Of course, you are obviously not going to communicate with her or read her mails or take her calls!) And if you do manage it, and if it does work, come back here and give your feedback, so all the rest of us know, okay?

by **aparna** » Mon Aug 19, 2002 12:22 am

Love itself is confusing, so why wasting time. Time is more powerful. There will be a day wherein you will not have any feeling for her and believe me that day is not too far.

by **lucifer_in_disguise** » Mon Aug 19, 2002 1:36 pm

the best thing to do with a girl when you start to feel that \"something\" is to make a physical contact ASAP, because however might be the nature of the girl, once you have done it, she becomes a sort of emotionally attached with you....n later when you feel you have a kind of more deep feeling towards ur partner, you can establish it w/o much fuss.....so, my advice is just forget this girl, and the next time should you meet someone exciting , just remember what i have said.......have fun!!!n take the ball always in your court!!!

by **lucifer_in_disguise** » Mon Aug 19, 2002 2:38 pm

hallo ravi anniah..........appudappudu koddigaa nuvvu tokkouthunna tella tholu voisheshalu kooda chebuthundu....untaa mari!

by **sukumar** » Tue Aug 20, 2002 5:28 am

hey apanra,i do believe that nothing called true love exists,becos love is unconditional where as human mind has a lot of constraints ,but emotion though not as important as time is still needed just for a refreshing break from work ,i dont mind sparing few moments for my heart.....

by **cool_cherry** » Wed Aug 21, 2002 8:45 am

well, so much for the guys, but what\'s a girl to do? Im myself caught between two guys who care about me equally. Both them are miles and poles and galaxies apart, and I do like one more than the other, but the other guy has been in love with me since...however far back i can remember and we\'ve been friends since 4rth grade. Now what do I do? Am afraid of hurting either\'s feelings.
It\'s not just guys, girls have problems too!

by **Srinu** » Wed Aug 21, 2002 3:22 pm

first of all, guys... grow up.......
srikanth, what is it that you love abt this girl?
can you list it down... and not stuff like.. the way she smiles or the way she does this and does that......
i doubt you will come up with too long a list.
next... if you think she is a great girl and i assume your friend is a great guy (he being your friend)... then you should be happy for them. and finally, there are more fish in the sea. someones bound to see your \"beautiful\" side. so let bygones be bygones and live life king size.....

by **Srinu** » Wed Aug 21, 2002 3:24 pm

hey aparna... if i remember right you are the girl who wanted to know who loses more if a couple break up... got the answer???? by your posting.. guess you didnt... bcos you still find love confusing..... just kidding...

by **Aparna** » Sat Aug 24, 2002 9:09 am

Your are mistaken Srinu. I am not confused about love, was just trying to say that the so called love is not worth your time... gotcha

???

by **Srinu** » Sat Aug 24, 2002 10:54 am

Gotcha my dear. In fact I believe that love just is another ***** 4 letter word.

by **Aparna** » Sun Aug 25, 2002 8:30 am

Hey srinu, i am not the one who asked \"who will lose when love breaks up\". This is another Aparna, just for ur information.

Aparna

by **neeraj** » Mon Aug 26, 2002 5:57 pm

love is a very tender gentle experience,which cant be explained had to be experienced. not like the movie style you see some one and immediately chase round the tree.

i do not agree with aparna, i think has not experienced so for !!!!!

by **Dhakkan** » Mon Aug 26, 2002 9:28 pm

neeraj: What about your experience, will you share with us.

by **aparna** » Wed Aug 28, 2002 11:50 pm

Heloo Neeraj, the so called tender feeling can be had with some other girl also. why stick on to the same girl after knowing her feelings??? Grow up man!!

by **dokado** » Sun Sep 15, 2002 2:24 pm

Stop this time pass feelings and get to work

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